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i am a black woman who is a mother and single (never married). in more commonly-used terminology, i’m somebody’s “baby mama.” i have a mama’s baby. i am a mama’s baby. i am a mother. my child is eight years old, and honestly, i still have days where i look at her and think “i (with lots and lots of help) have kept a whole human alive for over eight years???”
i hope that anyone who reads the #30andThriving? series (especially those of you who have recently turned thirty or who are going through a major life transition) can get whatever it is they need from it, whether it be comfort that someone else doesn’t have the perfect life at thirty, or the motivation to focus on the positive in life.
when i have been overwhelmed by fear because i didn't know what life had in store, or i didn't know what move to make, or i had monumentally messed up and didn't know how to fix it, my friends were there to keep me grounded.
in my early twenties, i used to be *terrified* of high school students. the first time i started substitute teaching in September 2010, i was 22 years old, and i refused to go to the high school. fast forward to May 2018, and i am wrapping up my 3rd year of teaching 10th grade english. huh???
kids these days are incredible. sure, some of them eat tide pods and are literally addicted to their phones. *face-palm-emoji* H O W E V E R, they are also civic-minded, politically engaged, technologically advanced, and surprisingly self-aware (in my opinion).
everything that we go through in life requires a process. and the process can be ROUGH, to say the least, especially the process of maturing and growing up.
as i have mentioned previously, i have struggled with my faith over the years, especially faith in myself. much of this has to do with fear of failure. fear tells me that i’m not smart enough/skilled enough/certain enough to succeed. but slowly, i am (re)learning to tell fear that i AM smart enough/skilled enough/certain enough to do ANYTHING i choose. of course, doubt lingers, but it is no longer the primary voice to which i choose to listen.
as i have begun to be more vocal and forthcoming about my journey towards mental wellness, this faux-cocky confidence has morphed into an authentic sense of self. i am finally able to be assured in my strengths and acknowledge my flaws without being overwhelmed by them.
i love everything about planning; however, my execution sucks when it comes to said plans. i’m not sure what will make this year different, or if this year will even be different. BUT i chose one word for 2018, anyway. we’ll just have to see how it goes.
many of us have celebrity "aunties," women who we look up to, admire, and to whom we wish we were related. Jenifer MF'n Lewis is mine. read on to find out why.
how lauren got her faith back and decided to tell the tale.
there is something about writing in the third person that keeps me honest and open (#SpreadingAuthenticity, anyone?), and the process allows me to use my creativity to cleanse myself of thoughts that i often refuse to verbalize aloud. once they are on paper (or computer screen), i can go along my merry way and revisit them later without internalizing them. i wanted to share this musing with you in order to show you another way that i use creativity: for catharsis.
after you decide to spread authenticity and live with boldness, it is time to use your creativity. i have chosen to use my creativity to cultivate a community of people dedicated to black women and our mental wellness journeys, thus on the LEAUX. maybe you will use your creativity to start a business, begin a new hobby, or improve your productivity at work and at home. however you use your creativity, know this: everyone is creative in their own way, and creativity cannot exist without failure.
last week, i began a three-part series that looks into my life’s purpose and expands each part of it. if you haven’t yet, read part one, Spreading Authenticity in an Inauthentic World.
today’s post will be focused on part two of my purpose: to live with boldness, going for my goals unapologetically and inspiring others to do the same.
what authenticity has to do with any- and everything. #MentalHealthMatters #ontheLEAUX #phiLEAUXsophy 🌻
i can relate to the superhero Storm more than Superwoman, yet i have had to come to terms with the fact that i, unfortunately, am neither of them, nor do i have super powers.
the first step to learning how to read is learning your ABCs. here at on the LEAUX, we are going to take the same approach to mental wellness. in my own journey to be mentally well, i have come up with 3 #majorkeys (shoutout to DJ Khaled) that have helped me along the way.